PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT
Dear Beautiful, Amazing Soul,
You are NOT crazy. You are not crazy for thinking love should never be quite so complicated. You are not crazy for the mornings, afternoons, and nights you spent doubting a bold-faced lie disguised as the truth. You are not crazy for wanting safety and security. You are not crazy for giving honesty and respect, and expecting the same in return. You are not even crazy for wanting to believe the lies.
You are NOT crazy. And you are NOT alone.
I’ve been there. Not recently…but I’ve been there. And I’m so sick of people labeling other people as crazy when all they are asking for is kindness, consideration, respect, and honesty in their relationships with others. These are completely reasonable requests – and are absolutely necessary to a healthy adult relationship.
It is not enough for someone to show up occasionally with kindness and love – to tell the truth only when it serves them. Consistency matters. The truth matters. Consistency and truth are the bedrock of mature love.
You are not being unreasonable if you are asking for basic consideration. You are allowed to be angry with people – and if someone in your life doesn’t give you the space to feel anger (or grief, sadness, depression, rejection, even joy) then you can no longer afford to make space for them in your life.
Let them go. At first, it will be difficult. But in the long run, it will be better than constantly feeling confused, isolated, anxious, depressed, numb, fearful, angry, full of guilt or remorse, embarrassed and ashamed. Feeling that way is CRAZY-making – and you are NOT crazy.
“Taking crazy things seriously is a serious waste of time.” Haruki Murakami