Now Breathe – And Give Yourself A Pat On The Back

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You’ve earned it.

Whatever you did today – it was enough. You are talented and amazing – and the world is lucky you’re willing to share your gifts. Show up big and bold – and RAW and VULNERABLE. Trust me, true connection doesn’t happen when you play small.

Alexia Parks called me today. She said, “Erica, you are such a guide for women. They look up to you and see your strength, and it emboldens them”. I nearly cried. Those were the words I needed to hear today, because the truth is I’m feeling weak.

Despite a string of recent wins, I feel lost and at the mercy of time.

I’ve always been really careful not to label myself an Entrepreneur (not yet at least). But I am intimately familiar with one of the biggest struggles Entrepreneurs face. Let me paraphrase Daniel, “Part of being an Entrepreneur is getting comfortable with disappointing everyone in your life. You’ll disappoint your investors because you’ll likely lose their money, or not gain traction fast enough, or not communicate as often as they would like. You’ll disappoint your employees because the company won’t scale as quickly as you’d projected so you’ll have to break promises and even lay people off. You’ll disappoint your friends and family because you’ll be married to your company and will never have time to spend with them. Being an entrepreneur makes you the bad guy in every area of your life – but most of all – you’ll disappoint yourself.”

I am not an entrepreneur, but I still struggle with the disappointment curse.

For instance, I know I’m not always a great friend. I struggle with balancing work life with fitness, dating, and hanging out with my people. If my house is clean, then some other area of my life likely fell apart. I never finish my to-do list. EVER. Instead, I add to it each day. I feel like Sarah Cynthia Silvia Stout (who would not take the garbage out).

But guess what? No one ever finishes their to-do list. There are always things left to do. And until we die – that will be the case. Humans of New York asked President Obama about the time he felt most broken – here is his response:

“When is the time you felt most broken?”

“I first ran for Congress in 1999, and I got beat. I just got whooped. I had been in the state legislature for a long time, I was in the minority party, I wasn’t getting a lot done, and I was away from my family and putting a lot of strain on Michelle. Then for me to run and lose that bad, I was thinking maybe this isn’t what I was cut out to do. I was forty years old, and I’d invested a lot of time and effort into something that didn’t seem to be working. But the thing that got me through that moment, and any other time that I’ve felt stuck, is to remind myself that it’s about the work. Because if you’re worrying about yourself—if you’re thinking: ‘Am I succeeding? Am I in the right position? Am I being appreciated?’ – then you’re going to end up feeling frustrated and stuck. But if you can keep it about the work, you’ll always have a path. There’s always something to be done.”

So, let’s stop beating ourselves up for being imperfect and human – and let’s get to work. THERE IS ALWAYS SOMETHING TO BE DONE.

I’m sending you a virtual pat on the back. You’re doing enough. You are enough.

Now go and do the next right thing. 



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